Rashmi Bansal's column: Why are today's youngsters afraid to commit to each other?

There are two types of parents in the world: One who is 'unaware' of his children's antics. And secondly, who are 'upset' with the antics of their children. I am referring to those 'children' who, by appearance and by law, have become adults. But in the eyes of parents, there are still 'children'. And maybe always will be. Everyone knows that nowadays boys and girls create profiles on dating apps, meet each other, but parents in the 'unknown' category think – they must be doing it, my Pappu is not like that. When they ask their darling, they get an instant answer, otherwise. I don't get into these things. Pappu knows that his mother will not be able to hear the truth. Actually, he goes on a date with a new girl every month, but if he finds out in the house, then there will be a kit every day. Whenever he leaves the house, the mother will look at him with suspicion. When he returns home, there will be an inquiry. So it's better to lie. Yes, precautions have to be taken even after lying. Nowadays, mom has also landed on social media. Therefore, there is a 'Satwik' account – for the eyes of the Chachi-Bua-Didi type of people. Look what a good kid I am. And the second account is private, only for your special ones. In this account, his true form is seen – 'Yes, I like all this, but you have dirt in your eyes.' So should I ruin my life because of your old thoughts?' And if it is not Pappu but Pammi, then there will be even more trouble. Parents may tolerate the indecency of boys, but what about girls? Therefore, there is no question of telling the truth. Saying hello uncle, hello aunty, she went to the café to meet someone. By the way, it is not that the parents did not love at all in their youth. Maybe he liked someone in college, but he couldn't express it. Or even a few days of dizziness but could not reach any conclusion. But even if there was a romance, it was with one or two. It was very rare to find someone's love before. Now what? Go to the dating app, paste photos and make choices from all over the world. You just have to move your fingers. You can write anything in the profile, you write it. When we met, it was found that Sweety was not 5 feet 6 inches, but 5 feet. And Sunny's photo was fine, but he doesn't take a bath. Oops. No one, I'll try again tomorrow! By chance, two people 'click', so after a few days, one of them doubts whether it's okay for me. Because after getting to know each other a little, its flaws start to appear. So let's start the finger game once again - right swipe, left swipe - 'Hi, how are you?' I am a mother who has not hidden anything about my adult daughter. From the beginning, I told him, "Whatever it is, don't be afraid, let me know." So I am very aware of the dating life of my daughter and her friends group. Too much information! And that's why I say that parents who know the truth are 'upset'. The problem is, why are boys and girls so scared today, why do they die in making commitments to each other? You are not going to find any Aishwarya, and even if you do, the story is the same. Every human being has some shortcomings, just understand the difference between a boy and a girl. Nowadays, let's assume that we date before marriage. And those who say 'no', are just afraid of you. The truth may seem bitter, but it is cheaper than the lie. Because a child madly in love can do anything. If you were shocked by his conduct, so be it. At least no innocent people are hurt! I am a mother who has not hidden anything about my adult daughter. From the beginning, I told him, "Whatever it is, don't be afraid, let me know." So I am very aware of the dating life of my daughter and her friends group. Too much information! (These are the author's own views)